The Six Human Emotional Needs

Motivational theorists and social scientists have been studying motivation for decades, trying to find out what motivates our behavior, how and why. Dozens of theories of motivation have been proposed over the years. The crux of those theories is that individuals’ most basic needs must be met before they become motivated to achieve higher level needs. Below are few motivating factors which drives human behavior.

Personal Growth
Self-development is a lifetime process. It is a procedure for human to evaluate their skills and qualities, consider their aims in life and set goals in order to realize and maximize their potential. As our lives goes on with series of transformations, we need growth to keep-up.

Achievement
This is another crucial motivating factor which determine the level of human motivation. As human we life to accomplish something; especially by superior ability, special effort and great courage. Thinking of our achievements will give us sense of honour, self-respect and great esteem.

Significance
As human we all need the significance to keep existing as human, Merriam-Webster dictionary define significance as “the quality of being important; the quality of having notable worth or influence”. This include self-worth and reputation.

Love & Connection
Love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. As human we all need love and connection to continue existing. Love is complete acceptance and it is completely unconditional.

Contribution
All humans are born for a purpose, there are reasons why we are here, that’s why we all need to play our parts in life. Living is not about being passive. As human, we must be active in anywhere we found ourselves and we must contribute towards a greater good.

Motivation
I always call it MAP: Mastery – Autonomy – Purpose. Those are the drive which is helping us to continue staying alive positively. All human needs MAP to walk the journey of life in this 21st century. There is no limit to the achievements of humans who are well motivated.

Finding Hope in the Labyrinth of Life

We have all get lost at a point in time in our lives, it happened to some of us when we are younger. It might be in a large shopping centre or in a crowded city centre on a day out with our parents, but the funniest part is that, as a child we won’t agree that we are lost; instead all we got to say is “my mommy or daddy is lost”, while the struggle continue until we are found.

This issue of getting lost and found as a human is common, because we are prone to lose concentration and focus on what we are doing or where we are going. Sometimes we can also get lost in the state of mind because we are not meant to live in the state of mind, and this happens if we think too much about anything that is bothering our mind.

Human are prone to fall into traps set by others and it happens to those obsessed with food, sex, car, clothing etc. As human, our biological instinct is always there to set us right back on track whenever we feel lost in the state of mind, when go off the right road leading us somewhere or when life seems to be a labyrinth.

When some people regain consciousness that they have been lost, they will start complaining that “life is too short”, forgetting that they have wasted most of their times perambulating in the same place or wasted their time doing something that are not worthwhile; things that does not have positive impact in their life.

Life is not short, what some people lack is focus. Focus to live intentionally, focus to base their thoughts on positivity, focus to be able to live impact for eternity, focus to be able to practice mindfulness and focus to be able to stay motivated always.

The journey of life is filled with distractions, wayfarers and passers-by, but among them is you and you are here for a purpose. So, I implore you to focus on your life and discover or create a purpose to live for. Who do you spend your time with? That matters a lot too, you must make your circle perfectly round by relating with positive folks that have common goals as you.

To walk the journey of life, you need courage to be optimistic and stay focus on motivation (mastery – autonomy – purpose). That will be the map towards your utopia where happiness and success are unlimited; and you will experience a wonderful fulfilled life.

3 Simple Methods to Stay Motivated

Good day happy people. Some people status on social media and networking platforms today will be: Oh! no, Monday is here again, while some people will have an eerie sensation as they believe that Monday is the first day of the 5 days hostage situation. You can take a quick break from your work or study to have a bit fun which will help you stay motivated simultaneously.

What ever your thoughts and feelings are about Monday is just normal because you are only human. Human nature is against any form of hassles, those hassles can be inevitable for people who are working or attending college on weekdays, even for those who are parenting; people just want to sit, relax, have fun and not get stressed by any activity.

I suppose to be the laziest person because I was born on Sunday but I never allow that fact to demoralize me and make me who I won’t like to be. Instead I choose to treat everyday of the week as the same, I choose to stay positive, fighting, brave, ambitious, focused, strong and motivated always; knowing that mentality is everything.

Below are 3 simple ways to stay motivated:

Always be thankful and make peace with the past

Always be grateful for where you are now

Always be hopeful for a better future.

Life Is a Journey, Not a Competition

Just as a general note, you should eliminate any thought that there is an expectation that you do anything by any age. You don’t have to be married with kids by 25. It’s okay to be 16 and never been kissed. There is nothing wrong with you if you have not graduated from college by 22. You are not a failure because you don’t have your dream job at 30. There are no rules to life. You don’t get special points for achieving certain things by a deadline. Just go at your own speed; Life is not a race.

Life is a journey and not a competition. If you admit this fact, you will be happy and experience a wonderful fulfilled life. Life is a gift, age is just number and time is an illusion. Philosophers and physicists has made it known that the nature of time has always inspired curiosity in humans.

Albert Einstein was very clear in his day. Physicists are now very clear about the concept of time too. Time is not absolute, despite what common sense tells you and me. Time is relative and flexible. According to Einstein, “the dividing line between past, present, and future is an illusion”. So, reality is ultimately TIMELESS. This sounds pretty bizarre from the view of classical physics, but from the view of consciousness theory and spirituality, it fits in perfectly.

I implore you not to worry too much about your unachieved goals, just stick to the plans you have made towards achieving those goals and be optimistic that someday you will achieve those goals. Don’t worry over time, or get intimidated about others achievements because everyone has their own special time of success in life.

I have heard and read about some popular and successful late bloomers like – Bryan Cranston, Colonel Sanders, Anton Bruckner, Vivienne Westwood, J.K Rowling and lots more.

So, I implore you all to be courageous and optimistic in walking the journey of life at your own pace and intention. Don’t chase people, don’t force things, they will fall in place when you least expect them. Live life with baby steps, live your life for progress, not perfection; and you will experience a wonderful fulfilled life.

Your Happiness and Success is Your Responsibility

Some folks usually express their judgement about life by saying “life is not always sunshine and rainbows” I do not oppose nor agree with that expression. Being a staunch optimist, I believe that there is no good or bad weather. To be happy, successful and achieve anything you want in life, there are few piratical methods that you can practice daily and they are all about yourself.

Self-compassion
Love yourself enough, always practice self-love and learn to appreciate yourself, because if you don’t love and take good care of yourself, it can be hard for someone else to do that for you. Also, learn to forgive your past failures and disappointments; Don’t be so hard on yourself.

Self-awareness
Improve your self-awareness, if this and the first are used with wisdom and proper willpower, I assure you that you can achieve anything in life and most especially you will experience a wonderful fulfilled life.

Self-actualization
It is the motivation to realize your maximum potential and possibilities. It is the master motive, all other motives being its various forms. In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the need for self-actualization is the final need that manifests when lower level needs have been satisfied.

Self-esteem
The strongest factor for success is self-esteem, and it all about believing in yourself to achieve those things you set as goals. Believing you can do it, believing you deserve it and believing you that you will get it.

Self-believe
Self-belief or self-confidence is also known as winning attitude, it evaluates the way you feel about your skills, abilities, looks and behaviors. Anyone with good self-confidence can learn things quickly, trust that they can complete tasks to a good standard and appear attractive to others.

Be yourself
One of the main things that cultivates to your happiness in life is to be yourself. Always make sure you act naturally according to your character and instincts. Accept yourself for who you are; for that is what makes you unique and be self-compassionate.

Rising Above Life’s Bitter Lemons (Disappointment, Heartbreak, Failure & Loss)

Overcoming life adversities requires a courageous, resilient and optimistic human being. You must be strong to face and triumph over life challenges. Here is how to keep moving forward even after life has handed you some bitter lemons:

  • Just accept what happened and move on
  • Play the role of a spectator of your life
  • Do not take it personal
  • Focus on your strengths
  • Seek positive influence and supports

Despite some life’s inevitable hassles, you must be optimistic and believe that life is worth living and that belief will help you create the fact. Optimism will bring about success which is the best form of revenge, success in this context is being happy and living up to your potentials. Finally, you will experience a wonderful fulfilled life.

I hold this belief that no one dead can be forgotten, they go to their last resting place. The memories and legacies they left behind will continue living in our minds. That is why it is better to live a positive and happy life, while doing good and passing positive vibes to others; eternal life is beyond religious conviction.

I implore anyone who has lost somebody not to cry and worry too much, all we need is fortitude to bear the loss and immortalize them, the best we can do is to continue blessing their souls. I knew what it feels like, I have lost few loved ones too. No matter their age, we just want them to live forever.

Death can only terminate the biological functions of human, but human soul continues to live in-between time and space. So, memories and legacies of human will determine afterlife. To all our families and friends who have passed on: I pray that God bless their souls, keep them save and grant them all eternal rest until we meet again.

This post is one of ten posts on how to deal with life bitter lemons, which is a collaboration of ten bloggers across the globe who are propelled by positive creative energy and willingness to help people be the best they can be and be able to make lemonade, even after life has handed them a handful of bitter lemons.

The bloggers are as follow Addison D’Marko, Ajibola Sunday, Altea Addison, Barb Caffrey, Ipuna Black, Jane Love, Jothish Joseph, Sadaf Siddiqui, Tajwar Fatma & Nicolle K. You can visit their corner of the internet to read more related posts on how to cope and make lemonade out of life bitter lemons. Stay blessed.

The Power of Courage and Willpower

Life can be challenging sometimes due to inevitable circumstances, changes and uncertainty. It takes a courageous heart and optimistic mindset to thrive in the face of adversity. Most people think courage comes and go, but courage is innate. Don’t allow a daunting situation to dull or kill your morale; you have all it takes to achieve success in all your endeavors in life.

I always wake up very early to get ready for college, despite this, I still get to college late if I don’t get a lift on time. I dislike this situation and I decided to be independent. I got myself a bicycle, which am unable to ride, but I have the courage and appropriate willpower to master the art of riding a bicycle.

I started cycling around in the compound for one hour every night, that went on for couple of days but I still have that little voice of fear in me that “how can you ride alongside vehicles of various sizes on a major road?”. My heart said “I can’t do it” but my mind keep saying “shut up, I can do it”.

On one Monday, I was ready for college again as usual, I grab my bicycle for the first time and I hit the road, I cycled along the way and I get off to push it up the hill. But I have this urge that I can ride up the hill too and whenever I see other people cycling on the major road. Finally, I achieved my goal of cycling up the hill and on the major road and I became independent.

The bike that motivated me to ride was stolen not long after I have mastered the art of cycling but I get another bike the following week. Cycling has become part of me and I found it easier to commute. I transform negative vibe into positive energy, this make me bold and courageous to get another bike which I now use to commute.

I implore you not to be blaming others for your predicaments and not to be complaining, because things can get worse when they are telling you sorry continuously. You have all it takes to be happy, succeed and achieve your goals in life; you have greatness within you. All you need is courage and appropriate willpower.

It takes courage to practice all other virtues constantly, summon your courage whenever you need it, it is innate. Believe in yourself, practice and develop your courage by doing one thing that will scare you every day. Your achievements are limitless if you utilize appropriate willpower, and you will discover, create and experience a wonderful fulfilled life.

 

 

 

 

How to Be Yourself

Being yourself is considered as the greatest achievement in life. If you are courageous to be yourself and live more intentionally, you will be happy and successful in life. There are few practical methods you can adopt to be yourself in your everyday life. Below are the few methods that will make you be yourself and live more intentional.

Practice self-compassion always. Love and accept yourself for who you are and be grateful. Keep the love and peace in your heart and make that love a new way of life, for this will make you live in love the rest of your life.

Don’t chase other people. Keep and maintain your natural personality and some people will love and accept you for who you are. The people who are destined to be in your life will come find you when you least expect them and stay with you.

Do more of what you love doing every day. It can be anything you consider as habit: Listening to music, reading, exercising, running, cycling, writing and lot more, just make sure it is something that positively benefits your being.

Don’t compare yourself or compete with others. Life is a journey, not a competition; just go at your own pace. Don’t worry about the success of others and don’t get intimidated by them either; everyone has their own time, just keep up the decent work and you will be successful.

Always take diligent care of yourself. Don’t be so hard on yourself, no matter your situation. Motivate, celebrate, and compensate yourself every day. You are responsible for your happiness, and when you are happy others can tap into your positive vibes.

Finally, live your life for progress and not perfection; and celebrate every little wins.

At the end of every day, the only questions you should ask yourselves are:
Did I love enough?
Did I laugh enough?
Did I make any difference?

Positive Provocation: Morning Affirmation to Bless the Day

As I woke up, I give gratitude for my precious soul has been preserved till today
I’m glad to be among the living souls that will experience goodness today.

I’m grateful for the gift of life
I’m grateful for the breath of life
I’m grateful for seeing a new day
I’m grateful for all I have today.

As the new day unfold, I proclaim:
Serenity to accept things I can’t change
Courage to change the things I can
Wisdom to know the difference.

As I gradually evolve into this day:
I proclaim success and prosperity in all my endeavors today
I proclaim joy, peace of mind and positivity in all its form today
I proclaim more wisdom, knowledge and understanding to be mine today
I proclaim health, energy, vitality, tenacity and equanimity to be mine today
I proclaim all virtues and all physical attributes needed to get me through today.

As for me, my family, friends, loved ones and relatives:
I proclaim that nature keep, feed, protect, provide, nurture and make us flourish.

I proclaim that nature will give peace to the dead, save the living souls, bless humanity and make our world a place where dreams come true, a place where peace and love will flow like milk and honey; and everyone will live in harmony.

I’m happy, I’m healthy, I’m peaceful, I’m protected
I’m whole, I’m strong, I’m powerful, I’m courageous
I’m confident, I’m perfect, I’m loving, I’m harmonious.

I release my affirmation into the creative energy of the universe, believing that it is done and so it is. I am grateful for this realization, at the end of today I will have full joy to give gratitude, knowing that it is the best attitude.

Make Life Easier For Yourself

You have absolute control over your life, you are and should be responsible for all your thoughts and actions so far you are of age. You are god in your own right, you are the master of your own destiny and you can create and experience a wonderful life.

Cultivate positive mind-sets by thinking positive daily, while passing positive vibes to others. Practice gratitude for it is known as the best attitude. Be kind to yourself and others, and you will experience favor, mercy and kindness in the land of the living.

Be courageous enough to be self-compassionate, be yourself and stay real. You cannot afford to be the second rate version of someone else, be the best you can be. “When you lose the privilege to be different you lose the right to be free”.

You only have one life, live it on purpose and taste experiences to the utmost. You have all it takes to create or discover and experience a fulfilled life. Life has no meaning of its own; only you can give it a meaning with your perspective and what you make of it.